Can I Not Invite a Relative I Don't Get Along With?

by Amanda
(Nebraska)

My fiance's cousin and I do not get along at all!!!

We haven't even spoke to each other in a year and I really don't feel like I owe it to her to invite her.

On top of that I relly feel like it would absolutely ruin my day. I can't stand even being around her and she has said terrible things about me.

Is it going to be wrong of me not to invite her?


Answer:

Okay, so let's put your mind at ease firstly, and let you know for certain that you are NOT an terrible person just because of your guest list concern.

Making up the guest list for your wedding is usually one of the most stressful things you have to do.

You don't want to offend anyone, but by the same token, you don't want to have anyone there who could disrupt YOUR beautiful day.

Also, why would you choose to invite someone you don't like, who could possibly take up the invitation of a dear friend or family member that you would really love to share your special day.

Since you haven't had any contact with said cousin in a long time, and, as long as your fiance is on the same page as you, I would put your mind at ease and not add her in to your wedding guest number.

Now, that being said a lot of that decision could also rest on the fact if his side of the family has contributed financially to the cost of the wedding. Then, traditionally, they could have a partial say in the wedding guest list.

If you do end up not inviting the cousin, you could always say that with two families to accommodate, it was simply impossible to invite everyone you wanted to.

Hope it helps and take care!

Diane