Father's Rights at the Wedding

by jim
(w-seneca)

As the father of the bride, I'm feeling completely ignored.

I'm paying so why shouldn't I have a say in something?

We are having a family style wedding reception and I have been ignored on all aspects of the wedding.

But I thought they would allow me to have a decison on the food being served. And, once again, no.

Now I'm depressed and do not want to attend or be a part of this wedding.

Am I wrong to HATE only being the cash cow.

Ignored father of the bride

Answer by Diane:

You have every right to be upset with the situation.

Sometimes, it is very easy to get caught up in the wedding planning and not think about those closest to you.

Definitely take some time out with your daughter and explain that you would like to have some input into the planning.

It could be that she had no idea that you would even want to be involved in the wedding planning (most father don't).

She might just agree with you! And if she doesn't, then you have every right to withdrawal your offer of monetary assistance.

But before getting to that step, check to see if you can both reach a compromise.

A wedding is such an important event, I would hate to see you miss out on attending it.

Start the conversation and let her know how you feel, you might just be surprised where it takes you!

Take care and best wishes always,

Diane