Guest List Issue - Do I invite?

by Betsy Grogan
(South Salem,NY)

I have a guest list issue.

My mother has a very dear friend from work who has 2 daughters.

I am close to one and not the other (who is married).

Must invite both daughters or can I invite just the one I'm close to and her parents?

Answer by Diane:

Hello Betsy,

Welcome to our community and thanks for asking your question.

It is very common to have issues with your guest list, so to determine an answer you'll have to ask yourself some questions.

I'm a firm believer in the fact that it is your wedding and, especially if you and your fiancé are footing the bill, you should have full control over who comes to your wedding.

However, I know you mentioned that it is your Mom's friend's daughters. Are your parent's involved in paying for the wedding. If so, they merit having a say in the guest list and your Mom might feel awkward about inviting one daughter and not the other.

So, what I would do, is go to your Mom and tell her how you feel (open communication is always a good thing!) about the situation.

She might just agree with you to only invite the daughter you feel closer with. Besides, the other daughter might feel a little awkward herself being invited to your wedding.

Hope that it helps!

Take care and best wishes always,

Diane