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I feel your pain and frustration at your situation!
It is not that a tent wedding is not nice, they can actually be done very nicely, but if it is not what you really want your wedding to be, then planning one is not very fun.
I don't know what kind of cook your future Mother-in-Law is but perhaps you should direct her to my page on Catering Your Own Wedding Reception and wedding reception recipes.
Let her know that there are a great deal of concerns to think about when you are going to feed 300 plus people.
Think of all the cost involved in cooking that much food, let alone the time it will take to cook it all.
Also, when dealing with the tent situation, where will the food be prepared and either kept cool or warmed to the proper temperature. You sure don't want your guests to get food poisoning.
I think that if you approach her in this way, with some of the concerns you have with her idea, perhaps she would decide on her own that it might not be a good idea.
Do keep the lines of communication open with your fiancee. Talk to him and let him know what you are thinking and feeling.
Now to make matters worse my mother in law is saying she wants to do the catering for the wedding to lower the costs and she wants me to have my wedding in a tent.
I don't belive this! I'm at a loss for words.
It's affecting my relatonship with my fiancee-I never dreamt of having my wedding in a tent and let alone have my mother in law cook.
Sheesh! She wants us to postpone and save up for the large number of people. I just think we need to chop and cut the guest list.
I can't even stand most of the people on the list. Removing them would just make life easier for me.
I've compromised so much for this wedding to occur, I can't do it anymore.
If only my fiancee understood it's not easy for me-I hope things will come right eventually.
What do you do if his childhood sweetheart tells him shes had feelings for him all along and can't stand the fact that hes getting married to me!
I almost had a fit and just told her to butt off!
Today's just been stressful for me!
Jan 18, 2010 Rating
Guest List Cutbacks by: Diane
It should be okay as long as both you and your fiancee agree that the list needs to be cut.
Go through it with him (and his family) and start making cuts starting with possibly friends of family, family you haven't seen or heard from in years, co-workers, etc.
I know that a guest list has a tendency to get very big and it is exciting to get married that you want to invite everyone but the costs can really get out of hand.
Stick to those people you really, really, really want to be there to share your special day with.
Better to see if you can make the cuts to your guest list as that will save you the most money. You certainly don't want to start your new life together ending up in debt!
Perhaps you could also see if his side of the family would like to contribute a little more financially as the bulk of your guest list is from there should they not want anyone cut.
