Thank you, I realy needed to be reassured that it wasn't that terrible.
I just cannot truly see me enjoying myself with her being present. My soon to be husband is very understanding and I don't think that he would want to put me in that situation which makes me think that he is going to be okay with my decision.
As far as his family making a contribution to the wedding, I do not forsee that happening at all. It has pretty much been all up to me and my family.
Even though they attempt to make decisions for my wedding day plans, my family is taking care of everything financially so I am making sure it is just how I want it to be.
I am not letting everyone else decide the fate of my wedding lol. Including the invites. Infact, I had thought about having a small exclusive wedding due to the fact that there are going to be certain people that are not invited, instead of making it so obvious that we are singleing people out.
It is really sad because at this stressful time there has been some conflict and now we are basically continuing to reduce our invites.
We feel that it would be less drama and more about us (the way it should be). Plus we will have more money saved for our honeymoon that way also. So it works out.
Jul 22, 2009 Rating
You're Definitely Not an Terrible Person Just Because of Your Guest List Concerns by: Diane
Okay, so let's put your mind at ease firstly, and let you know for certain that you are NOT an terrible person just because of your guest list concern.
Making up the guest list for your wedding is usually one of the most stressful things you have to do.
You don't want to offend anyone, but by the same token, you don't want to have anyone there who could disrupt YOUR beautiful day.
Also, why would you choose to invite someone you don't like, who could possibly take up the invitation of a dear friend or family member that you would really love to share your special day.
Since you haven't had any contact with said cousin in a long time, and, as long as your fiance is on the same page as you, I would put your mind at ease and not add her in to your wedding guest number.
Now, that being said a lot of that decision could also rest on the fact if his side of the family has contributed financially to the cost of the wedding. Then, traditionally, they could have a partial say in the wedding guest list.
If you do end up not inviting the cousin, you could always say that with two families to accommodate, it was simply impossible to invite everyone you wanted to.
