Problems with the Bride's Mother

by heather
(wiggins, ms)

I am the mother of the groom and the mother of the bride seems to think that her daughter thinks she is better than them because she spends time with me and my family.

Her mother is now refusing to have anything to do with the wedding.

How should I handle this?

I do not have the money to pay for the wedding and they do, and now with all the strife between the bride and her mother, I am wondering who is going to pay for all of this.

What should I do?


Hi and thanks for your question.

I do find that weddings, and all the emotions they evoke, are usually the catalyst that either pull families closer together or, sadly, drive them apart.

I think that the most important thing to do is make sure that the lines of communication are open and that the future bride spend some time with her family as well.

If she is expecting money from her parents, it usually comes with a price tag, including parental input with the guest list, etc.

If the bride and groom don't want to involve the other side of the family with the wedding plans, then they can't really expect too much in the way of monetary contribution.

I hope that mother/daughter can work something out to keep everyone happy.

Weddings are supposed to be the joining of two families and it would be a shame to ruin such a joyous moment that can never be regained again.

As for you paying for everything; you are not responsible for paying for your son's wedding in total.

Explain to them that you will be able to contribute a certain amount to the wedding and that's it! It is up to them to figure out how to pay for the rest.

It's a good idea to get them used to managing their own finances as they will have to later on when they are married!

Take care,


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